When you met you couldn’t imagine ever fighting. Not like this, at least. Things were so magical and you were so in love. But now you have been together a while and even when you try to make simple comments they turn into fights that leave you ignoring each other and even going to bed angry, something you never did before. The distance has left you feeling isolated and alone. You feel so far away from each other that sometimes you wonder if you’ll ever get back to them. One of you may have even turned their affection to someone else. You want to feel heard and seen and you want to feel like your spouse loves you as much as they used to. You just don’t know what is wrong or how to fix it, but you’re willing to try just about anything to feel close to them again.

Couple’s Therapy is a difficult journey and many therapists don’t like to do it. My style is not about negotiation or mediation. It’s not about helping you learn to live with each other better or learn “communication skills” or “coping mechanisms.” Couples who see me should expect to work toward vulnerability and connection. Therapy with me is about being honest about the state of your heart and learning to show up for one another. You will learn how to accept and communicate your longings in a way that invites your partner close to you. I work best with couples who desire to stay together. Due to the nature of how I work I will not work with couples who express their anger through violence as such relationships do not have the sense of physical safety required to be emotionally vulnerable. LGBT couples are welcomed and affirmed.