For some, making fun of their partner is the sixth love language. Nothing feels better than teasing someone about a quirk and both of you erupting into lighthearted laughter. Sigh…It’s so fun to be safe in another person’s love and have them see your flaws and love you anyway. It’s very healing to be able to laugh at yourself sometimes. Good. Good. Good.
And honestly, some of us are incredibly funny. Being funny is very important to us. Being the funny person in the crowd helps us feel like we belong, like we have purpose. It’s nice to think we add some light to what otherwise might be a dark place.
But… humor, teasing, sarcasm… beware.
Humor is like the Sun. We need it to live. We need to touch it everyday, and soak some into our bones. Literally. But just like the sun, prolonged exposure to the powerful rays can cause a painful burn. Over time, skin that has been burned too much can even kill us. Humor is no different. If you go too long without laughing or joking or teasing someone you love, you can grow fragile and depressed, and seriously, maybe even die. But likewise, too much exposure to humor, sarcasm or jokes, especially at the wrong time of day or wrong season of our relationship can deeply damage someone we love.
In short, be careful with your humor. Avoid it when it could be risky, and keep a close eye on your partner to look for signs of damage. Love your partner more than the laughs.